New Years Eve and Lacking Groups of Friends

I know I said I would write about my job and boss today, but I'm still working on the best way to write that post, so I offer you this one instead.

A saying of mine is that I have friends who "come in ones." This means that I have never really had groups of friends that all know each other and were all friends. Sometimes this is helpful/cool, because it means my individual friends confide things in me that they might not in others because they know I have no one to tell.

Other times it is less enjoyable. I remember telling a friend once that being with multiple members of my extended family felt like nothing else in the world. She, knowing me well, hypothesized that maybe that wouldn't be such a big deal to me if I had more groups of friends. As much as I adore my extended family - and I do - I think she has a point. I envy this friend and her group of high school friends who are almost like family. I imagine what it was like for another friend to work at a fast food restaurant and have a ton of inside jokes with her co-workers. I want that.

I had it once. For about five years I lived in a dormitory where the people that lived there as well as the staff members were like family. I didn't share my deep, dark, secrets with all of them, but we were extremely comfortable with one another, always teasing and laughing. I don't think I really want to go back to my university days, but I do look at pictures of these people on Facebook with an ache in my heart, because I miss the community.

For New Years Eve this year, I went to the home of two friends who are married with a baby. It was a very quiet get-together, there was never more than seven people in the house that night, and I loved it. A friend from a different part of my life asked me why later, and I think I just felt like I belonged. I knew most of the people at that gathering, and the couple I didn't know were very friendly. it was wonderful.

I hope to gather even more "friend groups" in the future, because New Years Eve proved what I've always known: feeling like I belong does my soul good.

Take...Whatever

A new year is here, and I have decided that one of my resolutions is going to be to blog more. I've said this blog more, but I've said that before so we'll see if it happens.

To begin, things I am thankful and excited for in 2012-2013:

*The fact that I have been good about keeping up with my friends in the state I used to live in even though I don't live there anymore.

*The fact that God has given me friends of all ages; each one teaches and loves me differently.

*Twitter

*The fact that I have at least two - maybe three - trips to look forward to in 2013.

*The fact that my one dear friend who is married still actively pursues a relationship with me.

*My challenging job and my awesome boss - more about this on Monday's post.

*The fact that I can so accurately text with my voice on my iPhone

*Blogs I love

I don't know if I should be blogging. I have no idea how all the bloggers I love come up with post after post after post. I just know I want community, I want internet friends to maybe become real life friends. I want to perhaps write a post someday that will touch someone. I want to maybe become a better writer.  Who knows? I guess we'll just see what 2013 brings.